Selective Mutism & Childhood Anxiety Support for Parents
Help your child feel safe, build confidence and communicate with a structured, evidence-informed programme designed for parents of anxious, quiet children or with selective mutism.
If your child won't speak at school, with relatives, or in public, but talks freely at home,
you are not doing anything wrong.
This is not stubbornness.
It's not defiance.
It's not because your child doesn't want to talk.
Their nervous system is trying to protect them.
I help parents understand the anxiety behind the silence so they can gently build safety, confidence and communication, without pressure.
When Your Child Won't Speak, the Problem Isn't Motivation:
It's Safety
When Your Child Won't Speak, the Problem Isn't Motivation:
It's Safety
Many children with selective mutism or childhood anxiety desperately want to communicate.
They know what they want to say.
They want to join in.
They want to answer.
But in that moment, their nervous system switches into protection mode.
When this happens, you may notice:
- Their body becomes tense.
- Their breathing changes.
- They avoid eye contact.
- Their voice feels "stuck."
- Words become physically unavailable.
This is why well-meaning advice such as:
- "Just encourage them."
- "They'll grow out of it."
- "Offer a reward."
- "Push them a little more."
Often makes things harder rather than easier.
It can also explain why traditional approaches that focus only on speech don't always work.
Your child isn't being stubborn.
They aren't refusing.
And they aren't trying to be difficult.
Speech doesn't disappear.
It becomes temporarily unavailable when the brain and body don't yet feel safe.
When we first help a child feel emotionally safe, supported, and understood, communication can begin to return naturally, one small brave step at a time.
Meet Anna Biavati
Meet Anna Biavati
Hi, I'm Anna Biavati, Specialist Speech and Language Therapist and founder of Steps to Brave Talking.
For over 20 years, I've had the privilege of supporting hundreds of children with selective mutism, anxiety and communication difficulties, helping families move from confusion and frustration to confidence and hope.
Early in my career, I realised that many children weren't struggling because they lacked the ability to speak. They were struggling because their nervous system didn't yet feel safe enough to do so.
That understanding changed everything.
Instead of focusing on getting children to talk, I began focusing on helping them feel safe, connected and confident first. Time and time again, I saw that when pressure was reduced and the right foundations were in place, communication began to grow naturally.
This programme brings together everything I've learned from more than two decades of clinical practice, neuroscience, child development and working alongside families just like yours.
It isn't about quick fixes or asking children to be brave.
It's about understanding what lies beneath the silence, supporting your child's brain and nervous system, and giving you practical, step-by-step strategies that you can use every day with confidence.
My hope is that, by the end of this journey, you'll no longer feel lost or alone. Instead, you'll understand your child in a completely different way and know exactly how to support them, one small step at a time.
Because speech isn't the first goal.
Safety is. And when children feel safe, communication grows.
I am the creator of the Brave Muscle Method®, author of My Brain Land.
A Brain-Based, Parent-Led Approach to Childhood Anxiety & Selective Mutism
The Brave Muscle Method®
Talking is not a switch a child can simply turn on.
For many children with selective mutism and anxiety, communication becomes temporarily unavailable because their nervous system is trying to protect them.
That is why the Brave Muscle Method® takes a different approach.
Instead of focusing on speech first, we focus on creating the conditions that allow communication to develop naturally.
The programme helps parents build those foundations through five key principles:
> Safety before speech – helping the nervous system feel calm enough for communication to become possible.
> The body before behaviour – understanding that children's behaviour is often a response to anxiety, not a choice.
> Connection before expectation – strengthening relationships before increasing communication demands.
> Brave steps without pressure – building confidence through gentle, manageable experiences rather than forcing children to speak.
> Parents as the most powerful guide – giving families practical tools to support their child at home, at school and in everyday life.
Because communication grows from safety.
Confidence grows from experience.
And brave voices grow one small step at a time.
OUR CLIENTS SAY
“She was mute for about 2 years, and now she’s speaking and enjoying school just like everybody else!”
"The way you've designed your course, its all bite-sized chunks of information so its easy to learn. I even listen to it when I'm walking or at the gym"
"Anna's enthusiasm and knowledge of selective mutism is like nobody else I have ever met. She's my go-to for everything selective mutism wise"
Rotem
Parent
Julia
Parent
Leigh
Therapist
Why Parents are the key to progress
Your child doesn't need fixing.
They need adults who understand what anxiety is communicating beneath the silence.
Children don't learn safety from what we tell them.
They learn safety from how we respond.
When the adults around them begin to understand anxiety differently, children begin to experience the world differently too.
Through the Brave Muscle Method®, I help parents learn how to:
- Understand how anxiety affects communication.
- Reduce the invisible pressure that keeps children stuck.
- Respond calmly when their child freezes or shuts down.
- Recognise progress beyond words.
- Build confidence through everyday moments at home and school.
Because when parents change the environment, children no longer have to fight it alone.
Together, we move from...
❌ "What can I do to make my child talk?"
to
✅ "I know how to help my child feel safe enough for communication to grow."
When adults shift first, children often begin to follow.
Because communication doesn't grow through pressure.
It grows through safety, connection and trust.
What Progress Really Looks Like
One of the biggest shifts parents experience is learning to see progress differently.
Progress in selective mutism does not begin with speech.
It begins with safety.
It often looks like:
- Staying in the room instead of leaving.
- Playing alongside other children.
- Smiling, laughing or joining in without words.
- Looking at someone instead of looking away.
- Using gestures, nodding or whispering.
- A quieter but more confident voice.
- Trying something new, even if it feels difficult.
- Recovering after a moment of anxiety instead of staying frozen.
Many of these moments are so quiet that they are easy to miss.
But they matter.
Because every one of these moments tells us that a child's nervous system is beginning to feel safer.
These are not "small wins."
They are the foundations of confidence.
The foundations of connection.
And the foundations of brave talking.
They are the foundations of confidence. The foundations of connection. And the foundations of brave talking.
Why the Brave Muscle Method® Is Different
Most approaches focus on helping children talk.
The Brave Muscle Method® starts somewhere different.
It helps you understand why your child is finding communication difficult in the first place.
Rather than focusing only on speech, we focus on the whole child, their anxiety, nervous system, emotions, confidence and relationships.
Because when we understand what is happening beneath the silence, we can respond in ways that help children feel safe enough to communicate.
Because every child is unique.
And every child deserves an approach that starts with understanding.
WATCH MY WEBINAR:
What every parent needs to understand about helping children
who are scared to talk or communicate
in school or outside their house.
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Approach to Selective Mutism
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What every parent needs to understand about helping children
who are scared to talk or communicate
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A Brain-Based Family
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Be Part of Something Bigger
I’m currently running a Parent Research Project to better understand the real challenges parents face when raising a child with selective mutism and anxiety.
This is your chance to:
Share your story in a supportive and safe space
Help shape future resources for parents like you
Contribute to meaningful change for families worldwide
If you’d like to take part in a free parent interview, click below to join the project today:
And Finally..
Your child doesn't need more pressure.
They need a different approach.
Here's What Other Parents
Had to Say:
"Every tip that you were giving made so much sense. There's so many tips and resources to try"
“She was mute for about 2 years, and now she’s speaking and enjoying school just like everybody else!”
"There are lots of different aspects of the (Brave Muscle method) any child can work with it"
"The way you've designed your course, its all bite-sized chunks of information so its easy to learn. I even listen to it when I'm walking or at the gym"
"It's very important to have techniques that works. Now my daughter can talk to anyone"
"Anna's enthusiasm and knowledge of selective mutism is like nobody else I have ever met. She's my go-to for everything selective mutism wise"
Sophie
Steps to Brave Talking is an excellent online course that helps parents understand selective mutism when they are faced with the sudden reality that their child is unable to speak in certain social situations. It guides parents on how to support and accompany their child on this journey. The techniques provided are effective, and Anna is always ready to assist parents. I would highly recommend it!
Susanne
We had Anna’s support over three months and the changes this has brought to us as a family have been unbelievable. I now have a much better connection with my youngest and feel overall we are both calmer and less reactive. Anna’s advice is still with me, especially on those days which are messy. I fell blessed for it and will forever be thankful; I can’t recommend her highly enough. Thank you for all you do.
Selena
Anna has been a wonderful help to both me, and my son who has Selective Mutism. As a parent of a child with SM it can be really difficult, but Anna is wonderful at supporting the parents and empowering you to feel you can help your child. As she says - you are the expert of your child. And through her teachings, I learnt the confidence to navigate the journey with teachers, family members, and other people. She has a real passion for this subject that goes far beyond the scope of it just being a job for her. She pulls information from many different fields, and is obviously constantly learning and adapting her teaching method to incorporate new information and advances. I have worked with her for a number of years, and it has been very interesting to learn about the role the mind plays, and the body. Learning all about neuroplasticity and primitive reflexes, and SSP. Her methods give you hope that you can help your child. But also help you to accept your child as they are, and not push too much.
I highly recommend working with Anna and can't recommend her enough.
Gemma
We purchased Anna's course which we found so helpful and following the strategies and advice, our daughter made lots and lots of progress. The masterclasses are also really helpful, as you get to share wins and struggles with other parents and carers going through the same thing.
We also did the SSP programme with Anna which was amazing for our daughter and she went from not talking in her classroom to being told to stop talking so much.
Anna has a warm and calm approach and having been through this herself, is the perfect person to guide and help.
Whilst our daughter's SM isn't cured, she has made significant progress using Anna's method.
Alexandra
Around 6 years ago, I came to one of your workshops in Edinburgh and you subsequently helped us to support our adopted little boy Rory. Although broken up due to Covid, Rory did not speak to anyone for the entirety of P1, but now as he gets ready to go to secondary school, he is happy to speak to adults and his peers. A few weeks ago he took part in a school play to celebrate the school's 160th birthday. He stood up confidently, was word perfect and had great comic timing, but best of all, at the end when asked, he said he'd really enjoyed the experience and would be happy to do it again.
I just wanted to thank you for all the help you gave us and Rory's teachers both to understand what was going on and practical help so that Rory could overcome his anxiety.
Jules
I don’t like to think about where we would be if we hadn’t found Anna. My daughter is a teenager with Selective Mutism, and I genuinely don’t know what we would have done without Anna’s support.
Anna’s approach gets right to the heart of what children and young people with Selective Mutism truly need. She works with the whole family, and we have learned so much from her. Her support is incredibly thoughtful and well-rounded - covering school, friendships, family life, and all the day-to-day challenges that come with SM.
No question is ever too small or insignificant. She guides you step by step with patience, understanding and reassurance. As we worked through her course, things finally started to make sense. Her methods are compassionate, practical and - most importantly - effective.
The difference Anna has made to our family is hard to put into words. My only regret is that we didn’t find her sooner.
Charmaine
Anna has been a great support professionally. I reached out to her for specialist clinical supervision and she responded very efficiently. We were able to have a telephone call (due to distance) which helped so much. Anna provided resources and shared her highly specialist knowledge about Selective Mutism. She put me at ease and encouraged me to ask questions to support the case I was working on. Thank you very much!
狄米
Anna is my son’s first Speech therapist before we moved to USA. She is very open minded, easy to communicate, professional and most importantly, cares for her “little friends”. When my child started therapy with Anna he was about 27 months. He didn’t know how to imitate sounds when he started but he progressed in the following months with Anna, and that built a good foundation for his further therapy in the US. Thank you Anna!
Simona
I can't speak highly enough of Anna and her work. Non only my daughter's issue with speaking is now a memory, but all the process has been a great experience for her. She loved her sessions, she loved the homework Anna gave her and she has felt supported throughout all the therapy. Anna is a loving caring therapist, and her professionalism is second to none. I can only highly recommend Anna!
Maxine
Anna brought my child on by leaps and bounds. He suffered from a very bad speech impediment and she was able to help draw him out of his shell and to help turn him into a confident and conversant child. A professional, warm person, she is able to relate to and empathise with children and it is obvious every step of the way that she really cares. If you want great results I would recommend Anna wholeheartedly.
Gabriele
We contacted Anna as our 3-year-old bilingual child seemed to have a few problems to deal with people. He didn't speak with anybody that wasn't part of the family. Not even the school teachers. After just one meeting with Anna and some advice she gave us and his teachers, he started little by little to speak and in a matter of weeks all problems have been resolved. My wife and I can't recommend Anna's services enough. Thanks Anna.
Catriona
Anna worked with my son before and just after he started school and the results were fantastic. He now has lovely clear speech and we are so grateful. Anna was friendly and put him at ease right away. The therapy was all based around games and fun exercises and Anna took the time to teach us how to continue the therapy with our son between appointments in order to get the best results. I would highly recommend Word Steps.
Rotem
Anna is absolutely incredible both for the parents and the children. She has healed our 6year old daughter from SM after a 2- year mute period in school. We cannot thank her enough and warmly recommend her services.
Carol
My 9 year old son had a lateral lisp and struggled with ‘Th’ sounds. Anna worked with him over six sessions which were fun and interesting and provided exercises for us to continue with between her visits. We have seen a huge improvement with his speech and my son is much more confident and happier. I am so glad we contacted Anna for help and I wouldn’t hesitate in recommending her.
Catherine
Anna lead the training in Inverness, I came to the course half way through the day so I felt like I missed the most important parts. I took away from the course a hangout that was clear and helpful. I've not long learnt about SM and I'm grateful for doing this training as a mother and a childminder.
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